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Jul. 22nd, 2024
Dear Prudence, Then And Now
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minoanmissApparently they're doing a feature called "On Second Thought" where they review advice given some years ago. It's too long to copy over but interesting reading.
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/weddings/help-a-fellow-mom-asked-me-to-fill-out-a-recommendation-form-for-her-child-s-preschool-she-won-t-like-what-i-have-to-say/ar-BB1ha7ox?ocid=msedgntp&pc=U531&cvid=93fdca55dddc4870a5512700fe44f264&ei=87
link to all examples:
https://slate.com/tag/on-second-thought
https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/weddings/help-a-fellow-mom-asked-me-to-fill-out-a-recommendation-form-for-her-child-s-preschool-she-won-t-like-what-i-have-to-say/ar-BB1ha7ox?ocid=msedgntp&pc=U531&cvid=93fdca55dddc4870a5512700fe44f264&ei=87
link to all examples:
https://slate.com/tag/on-second-thought
Another letter I hope is fake
Jul. 22nd, 2024 09:17 amconulyI have a seven-year-old son who’s extremely sensitive to certain smells and foods. It’s been quite challenging navigating his needs. The other day at the playground, I found myself in an awkward situation with another mother. I know that her daughter’s lunch had a strong smell that has been bothering my son, so I decided to mention it, even though I felt awkward doing so. I tried to explain how these odors were disrupting his school day and affecting his appetite. I approached her politely, hoping for some understanding. However, she completely dismissed my concerns and suggested that my son could just move away if he didn’t like it. I was taken aback; it felt like she didn’t care about my son’s well-being at all.
My husband thinks I could have handled it better, but I’m not sure what else I could have done. I was just trying to advocate for my son. His sensitivity to smells and foods is already such a challenge, and these strong odors are making his school days unbearable. He shouldn’t have to suffer because this other mother packs food that is not appropriate for a child’s school lunch. I approached the other mother calmly, hoping she might change her mind out of common decency. Instead, she refused to consider any changes; she even resorted to profane language.
I hate seeing my son struggle like this. I refuse to let him dread school lunches because of someone else’s insensitivity. What else can I do to get the other mother to comply with my request? I’m open to any and all suggestions, even if I have to go over her head or pursue legal options. I know it may sound drastic, but my child’s welfare is at stake, and I need somebody aside from me to take this situation seriously.
—One Angry Mama Bear
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My husband thinks I could have handled it better, but I’m not sure what else I could have done. I was just trying to advocate for my son. His sensitivity to smells and foods is already such a challenge, and these strong odors are making his school days unbearable. He shouldn’t have to suffer because this other mother packs food that is not appropriate for a child’s school lunch. I approached the other mother calmly, hoping she might change her mind out of common decency. Instead, she refused to consider any changes; she even resorted to profane language.
I hate seeing my son struggle like this. I refuse to let him dread school lunches because of someone else’s insensitivity. What else can I do to get the other mother to comply with my request? I’m open to any and all suggestions, even if I have to go over her head or pursue legal options. I know it may sound drastic, but my child’s welfare is at stake, and I need somebody aside from me to take this situation seriously.
—One Angry Mama Bear
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Jul. 22nd, 2024 10:15 amconulyDear Eric: My daughter is dating a young man whose parents, at one point, belonged to some religious group that believed in having lots of children — so they had 12. Sam is right in the middle. As far as I can tell, the kids were expected to more or less raise themselves, and all were home-schooled.
Sam has a learning disability, which his parents ignored, and he has flunked out of college twice. He has lots of intelligence but not the tools to use it. Life has taught him that he is on his own and that few people can be trusted.
He is not on good terms with his parents. But he loves my daughter, which counts for something with me.
He also dislikes me and our family because he learned that I was encouraging my daughter to get to know a guy who was interested in her who had a PhD. The PhD turned out to be a real jerk, but Sam now bears a grudge against me for being “elitist.” (Shame on me for thinking a PhD has better job prospects than a high school grad.)
Sam currently works in a bar with hopes of learning how to be a bartender. His plan for the future is to marry my daughter and make a go of being a carpenter. I find myself not being crazy about the guy. Are we elitist for wanting our daughter to find a partner who has a decent relationship with his family and some kind of viable career path?
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Sam has a learning disability, which his parents ignored, and he has flunked out of college twice. He has lots of intelligence but not the tools to use it. Life has taught him that he is on his own and that few people can be trusted.
He is not on good terms with his parents. But he loves my daughter, which counts for something with me.
He also dislikes me and our family because he learned that I was encouraging my daughter to get to know a guy who was interested in her who had a PhD. The PhD turned out to be a real jerk, but Sam now bears a grudge against me for being “elitist.” (Shame on me for thinking a PhD has better job prospects than a high school grad.)
Sam currently works in a bar with hopes of learning how to be a bartender. His plan for the future is to marry my daughter and make a go of being a carpenter. I find myself not being crazy about the guy. Are we elitist for wanting our daughter to find a partner who has a decent relationship with his family and some kind of viable career path?
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