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[conuly]

Dear Care and Feeding,

For as long as I remember, I’ve wanted to name my future child something unique like Otto. I’ve told friends and family in my life alike about this dream I have for a future baby boy. Well, fast forward to now, one of my best and oldest friends is having their first child. Great! And it’s a boy. I couldn’t be happier for her! Until she shared with me her plans for his name … the same name I’ve wanted for my child for years. In the moment, I was too stunned to say anything so I just smiled politely and faked excitement. But now I’m reeling.

She didn’t seem to anticipate any disappointment from me. So I guess there’s a chance she forgot? I myself am in a long-term relationship, and we’re thinking of having kids in the next year or two. What do I do?! Still go along with the name in the future? Tell her something?

—Name Tied

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[conuly]

Dear Annie: I'm close to my nephews, one of whom recently married. The year before the wedding, during its planning, I told the couple that I would like to gift them their honeymoon to their choice destination, Greece, as their wedding present. They were thrilled. I gave them a check several months prior to the wedding to ensure they'd have any needed funds for deposits, airfare, etc., and told them it was fine to cash the check at that time.

I've since asked them to cash the check multiple times; the wedding and honeymoon having come and gone. My intended gift was the honeymoon, and my funds were not used for that.

I didn't intend to gift them a large sum for them to pay other expenses whenever they wanted. It's disconcerting not knowing when the sum will clear my account. Is this a generational thing? What is appropriate at this point? Just wait it out? -- Confused

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