Care and Feeding: My Husband’s Family Is Creepily Involved in My Teenage Daughter’s Boob Job

[ermingarden]

Dear Care and Feeding,

I feel strange asking this low-stakes question based on everything going on in America, but here goes. I’m a mom and my only daughter is 18 and will be graduating high school shortly. The only thing she wants for a graduation gift is breast augmentation surgery. We have the money to pay for it, and she inherited my flat-chested genes, but wants no part of looking that way. She only wants a small C cup, not anything over the top. I’m on board with it because it will make her feel better about herself, but my in-laws are vehemently against it. They keep shaming me and my daughter for even considering it, and now my husband thinks we shouldn’t allow it. I think we should go forward with it. What do you think?

—Busty or Busted
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[conuly]

DEAR HARRIETTE: My child has duped me, and it doesn't feel good. She has always been an excellent student -- up until this semester. One class in particular has been tough for her, and her grades reflect her struggle. I have asked her about it repeatedly, including trying to find out if we should get a tutor to help her do better. She has shrugged off all of my suggestions, but the grade has stayed the same. She says she hates her teacher.

My daughter is a senior and claims that she and others have "senioritis." I don't buy that. She is a smart young lady and should not fail (or nearly fail) a class at the end of her high school experience.

Today I learned that she hasn't been doing her homework. My guess is that she hasn't been going to class either. She has a few weeks left before it's all said and done. How can I get her to hunker down right now? I have been rewarding her when she asks for expensive treats and extra hang-out time with friends. I had no idea she was not doing her work during all this time. -- Not a Failure

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[conuly]

Dear Amy: I have two daughters and a son. All are adults. I am divorced from their father and am still single after 17 years since the divorce.

My girls both remain in my life – the youngest especially. “Chloe” is always there for me.

“Nancy,” the eldest, is like a cat toward me – she only makes time and effort for me if it’s on her terms and she is in the right mood, which is not very often.

My son, “Bradley” however, completely avoids me. He never answers his phone if I call. He doesn’t respond to contact from myself, his father, or his older sister, but he sometimes relates with Chloe.

Now that I’m over 60 and have battled cancer, I’m feeling my mortality and starting to think about things like getting a will done.

I’m a person of simple means so there won’t be much money left, but there will be a few thousand dollars in a 401K account and some life insurance money.

My dilemma is: Should I leave Bradley completely out of the will?

It seems the sad, sobering thing to do, but it would be based on how he has treated me.

Since Nancy is lukewarm toward me, should I leave her one-third, and then two-thirds goes to Chloe, who has been the most loving and giving child?

I suspect that if I do an even three-way split, the girls, especially Chloe, will feel resentful that their “deadbeat brother” got anything at all.

What do you think?

– Conflicted

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