Asking Eric: Flower power struggle

[petrea_mitchell]

Second letter here.

Dear Eric: My husband has a block, mentally, where he cannot buy flowers. I think he is willfully incompetent. It's not as if he were beaten with a bouquet or forced to eat them as a child. I tried bargaining with him to back off since I've bought my own and prefer to choose my own bouquets. But he wants/defends the job of buying them as well as the privilege of withholding them from me, which is so amazingly passive-aggressive.

He wants power. He is insane to try controlling the flowers.

I don't have time for him flopping around making mouth sounds about "wanting to" just not being smart enough to figure out the flowers in our small town. He seems bent on controlling the flowers in our home (he doesn't have allergies) while I hope in vain for him to decide to buy a poppy.

I suspect he wants an audience for the act of buying the flowers since he has literally bought me flowers less than 10 times in 30 years.

– Flower Disempowered

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