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Dec. 1st, 2021
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conulyDear Carolyn: My husband has self-esteem issues. He often has negative thoughts about himself, despite my constant reassurance.
His self-esteem issues impact our relationship. When I try to express my feelings or things I would like him to improve on, he gets very emotional and reacts like I’m telling him he is the worst person in the world. Recently, I told him how I would like his help more with our 1-year-old and gave specific examples, and he took it as saying he never helps or is a bad dad. I end up feeling terrible for making him upset and wishing I had just kept my mouth shut.
The problem is, we need to have these conversations to improve and grow as a couple and a family. How can I have them without him becoming upset?
— Hard Conversations
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His self-esteem issues impact our relationship. When I try to express my feelings or things I would like him to improve on, he gets very emotional and reacts like I’m telling him he is the worst person in the world. Recently, I told him how I would like his help more with our 1-year-old and gave specific examples, and he took it as saying he never helps or is a bad dad. I end up feeling terrible for making him upset and wishing I had just kept my mouth shut.
The problem is, we need to have these conversations to improve and grow as a couple and a family. How can I have them without him becoming upset?
— Hard Conversations
( Read more... )