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[conuly]

Dear Annie: My husband used to hold my hand when we were out and would always give me little pats and rubs just to let me know he was still interested in me. But once he had prostate surgery, it was like someone flipped a switch. He immediately ceased all contact. I realize we can no longer have sex the way we used to, but we can still give each other pleasure.

But here is the real problem: My husband is sometimes incontinent and must wear an adult diaper. I could live with this except that he doesn't change it for several days at a time. You can only imagine how he smells. He says he doesn't notice it, but I gag when I'm near him.

I have told him he needs to change the diaper more often and take daily showers. He'll try for a bit, but then reverts back to his nasty ways. In the meantime, I can't even get close enough to kiss him. What do I do? -- Missing It

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My Son’s Teacher Caps His Renditions of “Old Town Road” to Three per Day

[conuly]

My 5-year-old son is in kindergarten, and things are going very well overall. We like the teacher a lot, but I have a problem with one of her classroom policies, and I’m not sure how best to address it with her. My son enjoys singing and humming. He almost always sings or hums as he goes about his day. The rule in the classroom is that singing and humming are not allowed during instructional or work times, but they are allowed during both indoor and outdoor free play.

That is all very reasonable, and my son is adjusting well to this rule. The problem is that my son and several of his classmates LOVE the song “Old Town Road.” At home, he sings it all day long. At school, the teacher prohibits the number of times they can sing this particular song. They are only allowed to sing it three times per play period, and the only reason she prohibits them from singing it more is that she hates the song. To me, that seems irrelevant. This is the song that brings the kids joy, the song does not violate any other rules (language, etc.), and he is only singing it during the times when singing is allowed. I don’t see why his singing should be curtailed by her musical taste. I absolutely understand that a kid singing a song you hate 100 times in a row is annoying (I don’t like the song either), but that is the nature of kids. Our job as parents and teachers is to put our personal feelings aside and do what is best for the child. How should I approach her about this?

—Little Singer’s Mom

( She’s suppressing his musical spirit! )