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I (24M) strongly suspect that my gf (23F) ate a fish from my aquarium, and is pretending like she didn't. I have no clue what to do about this.
For context, I recently found one of my favorite tetras -- tiny and no bigger than an inch -- went missing without a trace. There have been no signs of aggression in the tank, no signs of illness, remains, etc. Last night I went to sleep early, and this morning it was gone. Normally, I go to sleep long after my gf, but this was the one night where I crashed early and she stayed up later than me. While I normally turn off the tank's light before bed, she did it last night. So I know she interacted with the tank in some capacity.
She has always been super fascinated by this one fish in particular, which I liked because I was glad she was finding interest in this hobby I've taken to since we moved in together. However, three days ago, she asked me if aquarium fish were edible a few times until I answered in earnest. I responded, assuming this was a joke, that I wouldn't. For the rest of the evening, she would stop to look into the tank whenever she passed by it (in a hallway of our place), which she also normally doesn't do unless I make a change to the tank.
Since finding out the fish was missing today, she has been very dismissive about my investigation as I tried to figure out if another one of my fish somehow ate it, or if it had managed to hide itself incredibly. Tonight, her stomach has been hurting her a bit. A coincidence I'm sure, but weird timing imo.
When I was taking care of her, I made a joke saying "Shouldn't have eaten that fish, I guess," assuming this was an obvious absurdity/joke. This made her upset, and, as she began defending that she didn't, that's when it hit me that she legit must have eaten my fish.
I have no question that she ate my pet given all the weird stuff these past few days and her uncharacteristic defensiveness on the matter, but I have no clue wtf to do at this point.
Top comment:
Personally I've always thought that if my spouse eats my pets it's not a good match but that's just me.
I (24M) strongly suspect that my gf (23F) ate a fish from my aquarium, and is pretending like she didn't. I have no clue what to do about this.
For context, I recently found one of my favorite tetras -- tiny and no bigger than an inch -- went missing without a trace. There have been no signs of aggression in the tank, no signs of illness, remains, etc. Last night I went to sleep early, and this morning it was gone. Normally, I go to sleep long after my gf, but this was the one night where I crashed early and she stayed up later than me. While I normally turn off the tank's light before bed, she did it last night. So I know she interacted with the tank in some capacity.
She has always been super fascinated by this one fish in particular, which I liked because I was glad she was finding interest in this hobby I've taken to since we moved in together. However, three days ago, she asked me if aquarium fish were edible a few times until I answered in earnest. I responded, assuming this was a joke, that I wouldn't. For the rest of the evening, she would stop to look into the tank whenever she passed by it (in a hallway of our place), which she also normally doesn't do unless I make a change to the tank.
Since finding out the fish was missing today, she has been very dismissive about my investigation as I tried to figure out if another one of my fish somehow ate it, or if it had managed to hide itself incredibly. Tonight, her stomach has been hurting her a bit. A coincidence I'm sure, but weird timing imo.
When I was taking care of her, I made a joke saying "Shouldn't have eaten that fish, I guess," assuming this was an obvious absurdity/joke. This made her upset, and, as she began defending that she didn't, that's when it hit me that she legit must have eaten my fish.
I have no question that she ate my pet given all the weird stuff these past few days and her uncharacteristic defensiveness on the matter, but I have no clue wtf to do at this point.
Top comment:
Personally I've always thought that if my spouse eats my pets it's not a good match but that's just me.
