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1. Dear Care and Feeding,
My 7-year-old son “Mason” plays soccer and really enjoys it and has made some good friends on the team. The issue is that my husband “Nigel” is a borderline soccer hooligan. While at our son’s games, he is perpetually making loud comments and curses when he thinks a call is unfair. He even earned himself a three-game suspension after he stormed down to the field to confront the referee when he called a foul on Mason and had to be pulled away by two other dads and both coaches.
Mason is really upset by his dad’s behavior (as am I and all of the other parents!) and asked if I can get him to stop. I have tried. Nigel is normally a decent and mild-mannered person. But when it comes to our son’s games, it’s like he becomes possessed. He keeps assuring me he will tone it down, but it doesn’t happen, no matter how many times I ask. I am this close to speaking to those in charge about barring my husband from attending the games for the remainder of the season. Can you suggest anything that would allow him to watch our son play without causing a riot?
—Sports Dad Issues
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2. Dear Care and Feeding,
My 9-year-old loves playing board games … until she doesn’t. Occasionally she can lose with grace, but more often she gets extremely distressed if she thinks she’s doing worse than the other player, or if she’s in danger of losing. Something close to panic sets in, as if it’s an emergency that she win the game. And she asks to play games; no one is forcing her! I really want to help her— it would be lovely if we could play fun family games that don’t devolve into tears and accusations of unfairness. Sure we could play collaborative board games, but the ability to lose an inconsequential game without fully losing it seems important. She is on the autism spectrum, but otherwise has no tendency towards meltdowns or extreme reactions. It’s just games. Any advice?
—Sore Loser
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1. Dear Care and Feeding,
My 7-year-old son “Mason” plays soccer and really enjoys it and has made some good friends on the team. The issue is that my husband “Nigel” is a borderline soccer hooligan. While at our son’s games, he is perpetually making loud comments and curses when he thinks a call is unfair. He even earned himself a three-game suspension after he stormed down to the field to confront the referee when he called a foul on Mason and had to be pulled away by two other dads and both coaches.
Mason is really upset by his dad’s behavior (as am I and all of the other parents!) and asked if I can get him to stop. I have tried. Nigel is normally a decent and mild-mannered person. But when it comes to our son’s games, it’s like he becomes possessed. He keeps assuring me he will tone it down, but it doesn’t happen, no matter how many times I ask. I am this close to speaking to those in charge about barring my husband from attending the games for the remainder of the season. Can you suggest anything that would allow him to watch our son play without causing a riot?
—Sports Dad Issues
( Read more... )
2. Dear Care and Feeding,
My 9-year-old loves playing board games … until she doesn’t. Occasionally she can lose with grace, but more often she gets extremely distressed if she thinks she’s doing worse than the other player, or if she’s in danger of losing. Something close to panic sets in, as if it’s an emergency that she win the game. And she asks to play games; no one is forcing her! I really want to help her— it would be lovely if we could play fun family games that don’t devolve into tears and accusations of unfairness. Sure we could play collaborative board games, but the ability to lose an inconsequential game without fully losing it seems important. She is on the autism spectrum, but otherwise has no tendency towards meltdowns or extreme reactions. It’s just games. Any advice?
—Sore Loser
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