Jun. 24th, 2022

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DEAR ABBY: I have been in an on-and-off relationship with a woman for three years. We live about two hours apart.

In the beginning, our relationship was wonderful. We would see each other on a regular basis and would text and video chat almost daily. We even talked about marriage.

But as time went on, she became more and more distant. She would either take forever to respond back to me or not respond at all. Her excuse was work. She was always working and always had something going on.

I then found out she was dealing with a couple of personal things. When I explained to her that relationships are all about communication, she kind of disagreed.

At one point, I was so upset, angry and frustrated that I said some horrible things to her. I even used foul language because of her not communicating. Also, she didn’t even bother to take two minutes out of her time to wish me a happy birthday. I always remember her on her birthday.

She is making me out to be the bad guy. I’m so hurt and angry at her because of her refusal to communicate.

Abby, what else can I do? Am I really the bad person here?


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DEAR ABBY: My husband was forced into sex at the age of 12 by an older female. He has expressed how humiliated he felt and that he made it his mission to never feel inadequate again.

He gets his “knowledge” of satisfying a woman through porn.

I have tried to explain to him that what he’s seeing is only a performance put on for the male viewer. I have tried more than once to show him what really makes a woman “tick,” but he insists I don’t know what I’m talking about and that I’m lying to him!

I have tried every gentle approach to avoid hurting his feelings.

I know from family members’ comments about his bedroom having been a “revolving door” for women that he probably didn’t use much discernment in his past.

How can I move forward when I feel like he’s stuck in the past? I know being sexually abused causes all kinds of trauma. He insists he’s over it, but his actions tell me otherwise.

I’m pretty sure I’m not his first unsatisfied partner, because all his other relationships have ended because they were “crazy, stupid, fat, unfaithful ….”

I don’t want to give up on him. Please help.

PATIENT WIFE IN FLORIDA


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It's just that I had to google the childcare habits of wild turkeys, and then Dear Abby was in the sidebar. Anyway, this is the last one.

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DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have a business and work together. He takes care of sales, and I keep the books.

I have raised his children, scheduled all appointments and taken care of everyone’s needs, including the pets. I also do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, etc.

I tend to suffer from depression and need at least eight hours of sleep each night. Because of this, I work at the office only four to five hours a day.

My husband cannot understand why I don’t work eight to 10 hours a day.

I get done what need to be done. Of the many other businesses we’ve known, the wives are expected to do this.

How do I make him understand?

WORKING ENOUGH IN CALIFORNIA


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