Has something happened to Amy?

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Two letters, one column:

Dear Amy: I’m currently undergoing treatment for breast cancer. People have had some very odd reactions to the baldness caused by my chemotherapy.

I’m not asking for advice on how to handle it, but I am seeking an explanation.

I find it very strange that several friends have asked to see me bald.

Those who see me in person ask me to take off my hat.

Others (who are not in person) ask me to send them a picture.

My very quick response to them is, “Absolutely not!”

They react with stunned confusion: “Why not?”

Amy, do I really need to explain that?

I tell them I have a difficult time looking at myself at the moment; I don’t want them with that image or actual photo.

I don’t think anyone losing hair to chemo should ever be ashamed of how it looks. I have no issues at all with those that chose to show it. I admire them. But the fact is, everyone handles it differently.

I am very private. I don’t want any public disclosures about my illness and treatment.

The thing that surprises me most is that the request comes from my closest friends who know how private I am.

I’m hoping you can shed some light on this odd human behavior.

— Confused

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Dear Amy: My husband of 55 years Googled two female television personalities. He said he was curious about their age.

Pressing him further, he admitted that he did so because they were pretty.

I felt hurt, ugly (which I am not), and most of all cheated on!

He doesn’t think he did anything wrong.

Can you understand how I feel, or am I totally overreacting?

— Upset!

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Dear Abby: missing information and also cancer

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