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conulyDEAR ABBY: My 20-year-old daughter has been dating a wonderful young man for two years. He's 21, almost 22. He treats her exceptionally well.
She has decided on a whim that she has an itch to know what it's like to be with other people! (They were each other's first everything.) I do understand that thought or itch, but I don't feel it NEEDS to be acted upon.
When she told him, it broke his heart. When I asked him if he was OK, he responded, No, but I will be. I just want her to be happy. It brought tears to my eyes. He's such a wonderful young man.
My daughter has no idea what a huge mistake she's making. Of course I want to support her no matter what, but I feel her actions are mean and selfish. How do I convey this to her but also be supportive? -- EMOTIONAL MOM IN BALTIMORE
( If you like him so much, why don't you marry him yourself, Mom? )
She has decided on a whim that she has an itch to know what it's like to be with other people! (They were each other's first everything.) I do understand that thought or itch, but I don't feel it NEEDS to be acted upon.
When she told him, it broke his heart. When I asked him if he was OK, he responded, No, but I will be. I just want her to be happy. It brought tears to my eyes. He's such a wonderful young man.
My daughter has no idea what a huge mistake she's making. Of course I want to support her no matter what, but I feel her actions are mean and selfish. How do I convey this to her but also be supportive? -- EMOTIONAL MOM IN BALTIMORE
( If you like him so much, why don't you marry him yourself, Mom? )