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Apr. 5th, 2025 06:31 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
conulyDear Carolyn: My partner/husband of 25 years asked for a divorce five years ago. We were having problems and had tried couples counseling, etc. But the conversation left me speechless and unable to respond. In the moment, I decided to shut down and announced that I would move out by the end of the month, which I did.
It’s now five years later, and I’ve had time and therapy to consider everything that happened. I’ve come to realize that I’m still incredibly angry, mostly at myself, for not standing up for myself or for the relationship. I fantasize about reaching out to him and telling him exactly how much he hurt me, emotionally and financially.
I told him to never contact me again, and he has abided by that request. And I realize my anger is mine to own and deal with. But is there a way to have my say and then close the door on this part of my life? I am with a new partner, who is wonderful, and I am fortunate this worked out for the best for me. But I want to get rid of this anger.
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It’s now five years later, and I’ve had time and therapy to consider everything that happened. I’ve come to realize that I’m still incredibly angry, mostly at myself, for not standing up for myself or for the relationship. I fantasize about reaching out to him and telling him exactly how much he hurt me, emotionally and financially.
I told him to never contact me again, and he has abided by that request. And I realize my anger is mine to own and deal with. But is there a way to have my say and then close the door on this part of my life? I am with a new partner, who is wonderful, and I am fortunate this worked out for the best for me. But I want to get rid of this anger.
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