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conulyMy 37-year-old daughter is getting married for a second time. It’s a church wedding and traditions are in play.
Her mother divorced me 36 years ago. I was an active and present dad, and we have a good relationship. I never missed a weekend. I went to her functions, and she vacationed with my new wife and me.
Here’s the problem: My daughter asked her stepfather to give her away. I’m assuming he will also be the one to have a father-daughter dance. This has crushed me. I didn’t say anything to her other than, “Oh, OK.” But I was devastated.
Now I don’t want to go and watch this other man (my ex and I had a foul divorce with much anger) walk my daughter down the aisle or dance with her. I know it’s not about me, but I’m hurt. I also don’t think it’ll be that crushing to her if I’m a no-show.
Am I being childish, or are my feelings justified?
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Her mother divorced me 36 years ago. I was an active and present dad, and we have a good relationship. I never missed a weekend. I went to her functions, and she vacationed with my new wife and me.
Here’s the problem: My daughter asked her stepfather to give her away. I’m assuming he will also be the one to have a father-daughter dance. This has crushed me. I didn’t say anything to her other than, “Oh, OK.” But I was devastated.
Now I don’t want to go and watch this other man (my ex and I had a foul divorce with much anger) walk my daughter down the aisle or dance with her. I know it’s not about me, but I’m hurt. I also don’t think it’ll be that crushing to her if I’m a no-show.
Am I being childish, or are my feelings justified?
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