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Jan. 19th, 2025 01:17 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
conulyDear Eric: For the past 10 years we have always “been there” for our grandchildren (now 18 and 16) and my son and daughter-in-law.
In the past two years, things have changed. We have sent the grandkids cards, asked them to various events and sent weekly texts. Most go unanswered, as if they are entitled. So, I recently sent them a text and gently reminded them to 1. respond when spoken to, 2. respond when they receive a text, 3. acknowledge cards and letters, and 4. generally respect family ties and elders. Basic social skills that they should have learned by now.
This recent text seems to have driven a wedge between my daughter-in-law and us. She has since restricted my texts/communications with the grandkids. Her statement is that the kids “are too busy.” They don't have time to say “thanks” or even acknowledge or respond back to anything.
My son has gone underground, and we have not heard from him, or see where he stands on this. My daughter-in-law is a “helicopter mom” who is involved in every aspect of the kids’ lives. It seems that my daughter-in-law’s outburst and overreaction may have been bubbling up for a while.
— Restricted Grandparents
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In the past two years, things have changed. We have sent the grandkids cards, asked them to various events and sent weekly texts. Most go unanswered, as if they are entitled. So, I recently sent them a text and gently reminded them to 1. respond when spoken to, 2. respond when they receive a text, 3. acknowledge cards and letters, and 4. generally respect family ties and elders. Basic social skills that they should have learned by now.
This recent text seems to have driven a wedge between my daughter-in-law and us. She has since restricted my texts/communications with the grandkids. Her statement is that the kids “are too busy.” They don't have time to say “thanks” or even acknowledge or respond back to anything.
My son has gone underground, and we have not heard from him, or see where he stands on this. My daughter-in-law is a “helicopter mom” who is involved in every aspect of the kids’ lives. It seems that my daughter-in-law’s outburst and overreaction may have been bubbling up for a while.
— Restricted Grandparents
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