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conulyDear Care and Feeding,
My 9-year-old daughter is in a small school with only 12 girls in the grade. Last year, seven of the girls had their own Halloween party and group costume. My daughter was not invited. I was quite hurt that a couple of their mothers, whom I consider friends, did not reach out to ask if she wanted to be included. It is clear now that she is in the uncool group. This would be okay, except that her best friend is leaving the school at the end of the year. It means she is left with two friends, who could very well be in the other class.
She has a very strong sense of self, much more than I did at her age, and she doesn’t want to be with the cool kids. I admire this quality so much. I brought up Halloween with one mom, who is now freezing me out, so I never spoke to anyone else. I am concerned that fifth grade will be miserable. My daughter doesn’t know that her best friend is leaving, but she will soon. Should I tell her now? How do I manage her (and my) feelings around this?
—Fed Up With Friend Drama
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My 9-year-old daughter is in a small school with only 12 girls in the grade. Last year, seven of the girls had their own Halloween party and group costume. My daughter was not invited. I was quite hurt that a couple of their mothers, whom I consider friends, did not reach out to ask if she wanted to be included. It is clear now that she is in the uncool group. This would be okay, except that her best friend is leaving the school at the end of the year. It means she is left with two friends, who could very well be in the other class.
She has a very strong sense of self, much more than I did at her age, and she doesn’t want to be with the cool kids. I admire this quality so much. I brought up Halloween with one mom, who is now freezing me out, so I never spoke to anyone else. I am concerned that fifth grade will be miserable. My daughter doesn’t know that her best friend is leaving, but she will soon. Should I tell her now? How do I manage her (and my) feelings around this?
—Fed Up With Friend Drama
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