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Jun. 20th, 2023
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conulyDear Prudence,
My 11-year-old niece has been staying with my husband and me because of her parents’ horrendous divorce. I do my best to distract her with lots of special activities and events. The problem is my sister keeps trying to piggyback on everything I do with her three rambunctious kids. I am not directly inviting her. She will hear about my plans from our mother and just push me to take on her kids or complain if I say no.
I have repeatedly explained that I can’t take on all four kids. My niece is very quiet and my sister’s kids just steamroll her when they are all together. It changes the dynamics completely. My sister complains I “never” do anything for her kids, which is false, but she can’t get it through her head that my focus is on this very fragile young girl right now and not being her free babysitter. At some point, I am going to snap and say something very ugly to my sister. I love her but her self-absorbed attitude is getting on my nerves. Can you help me?
—Only Aunt
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My 11-year-old niece has been staying with my husband and me because of her parents’ horrendous divorce. I do my best to distract her with lots of special activities and events. The problem is my sister keeps trying to piggyback on everything I do with her three rambunctious kids. I am not directly inviting her. She will hear about my plans from our mother and just push me to take on her kids or complain if I say no.
I have repeatedly explained that I can’t take on all four kids. My niece is very quiet and my sister’s kids just steamroll her when they are all together. It changes the dynamics completely. My sister complains I “never” do anything for her kids, which is false, but she can’t get it through her head that my focus is on this very fragile young girl right now and not being her free babysitter. At some point, I am going to snap and say something very ugly to my sister. I love her but her self-absorbed attitude is getting on my nerves. Can you help me?
—Only Aunt
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