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[conuly]

Hi, Carolyn: Out of nowhere, my sibling informed our family that he has been very unhappy in his marriage of almost 20 years and wants a divorce. Our family is reeling, and we’re all at a loss in how to handle it. His wife is a lovely person and they have children, which is making this even harder.

We love him, but are also angry at him for choosing this because, from our perspective, his reasons don’t seem acute enough to end a marriage. Additionally, I find myself handling my parents’ feelings, as they are extremely hurt and angry about it. This is a burden on me. I am also angry and upset but have closed off that area because it’s almost too much to emotionally manage.

I’m staying supportive of both parties and hoping they are willing to attend counseling. But I’m also fearing the worst and know I will have to help pick up the pieces of whatever happens.

Do you have any advice on how parents and siblings of those going through separation and/or divorce should act?

— Sibling

( Not sure why his divorce is suddenly their business, but okay )

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[conuly]

Dear Amy: I recently turned 21. I will be the first in my group of friends to graduate from college. This happens in a few weeks.

It feels like life is starting to return to a sense of normalcy as the pandemic recedes, and my friends and I are socializing more outside of our homes – going out dancing, and enjoying the nightlife.

My best friend and I are not big drinkers and every time we go out men pressure us to drink and then try to shame us for not "knowing how to party."

Can you help us come up with a witty comeback to shut down the pressure to drink?

– Happy Teetotaler

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