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Dec. 28th, 2021
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conulyHow do I politely tell people it’s possible for me to be a feminist who also wants to play Barbies with my daughter? I have no problem with nongendered clothes and toys, but I have always wanted a daughter whom (amongst other things) I can clothe in pink, play dress-up with, braid her hair, etc. I know one can do these things with a boy, but it’s not the same for me. Lucky for me, my Julie is your quintessential princess. I’m not forcing her into anything, and if she ever wanted to get rid of her girly stuff, that would be fine.
My problem is certain other people in my life can’t let the gendered nonsense thing go. Some of my husband’s friends and family have commented on how it’s setting Julie back to have her play with dolls and wear dresses 24/7. But that’s what she wants! I’m just lucky that it’s what I want, too. I’ve been told it’s not feminist to encourage her behavior. One of my husband’s friends in particular always brings her blue clothes and toy trucks. They end up getting donated after six months because she’s not interested.
I’m sick of the judgment, and it makes me understand why people can’t stand the obsession with gender and are starting not to care about these people. If Julie were Julian, my husband’s folks would love that he plays with dolls and would be over the moon to buy him glittery boots and makeup sets. It’s frustrating, and I don’t know what to say when they are in my home and making digs at me in front of my child. Or buying her crap she doesn’t want, just to force an agenda.
—Pretty in Pink Exhaustion
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My problem is certain other people in my life can’t let the gendered nonsense thing go. Some of my husband’s friends and family have commented on how it’s setting Julie back to have her play with dolls and wear dresses 24/7. But that’s what she wants! I’m just lucky that it’s what I want, too. I’ve been told it’s not feminist to encourage her behavior. One of my husband’s friends in particular always brings her blue clothes and toy trucks. They end up getting donated after six months because she’s not interested.
I’m sick of the judgment, and it makes me understand why people can’t stand the obsession with gender and are starting not to care about these people. If Julie were Julian, my husband’s folks would love that he plays with dolls and would be over the moon to buy him glittery boots and makeup sets. It’s frustrating, and I don’t know what to say when they are in my home and making digs at me in front of my child. Or buying her crap she doesn’t want, just to force an agenda.
—Pretty in Pink Exhaustion
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