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Feb. 4th, 2025 12:14 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Dear Prudence,
I’m 37, the eldest of four, and have been estranged from my 28-year-old and 26-year-old paternal half siblings for about 10 years. (I have one full sibling, we’re close.) I’m getting married in May and can’t stop thinking about getting in touch. Not to invite them—they hate our father and I don’t—but because family is on my mind. Their mother claims our father was violent with them and thus poisoned them against him. All he did was spank them. It feels SO distant to me now, but I confess I don’t want to reach out solely for hatchet burying. I have immense anger toward them. Their mother altered the course of my life, leading to a seven-year estrangement from my dad that ended when I reached out. So, I’ve done it once, should I do it again? Should I try to overcome this sibling estrangement and pursue a relationship? Is it worth it?
—Distressed Bride-to-Be
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I’m 37, the eldest of four, and have been estranged from my 28-year-old and 26-year-old paternal half siblings for about 10 years. (I have one full sibling, we’re close.) I’m getting married in May and can’t stop thinking about getting in touch. Not to invite them—they hate our father and I don’t—but because family is on my mind. Their mother claims our father was violent with them and thus poisoned them against him. All he did was spank them. It feels SO distant to me now, but I confess I don’t want to reach out solely for hatchet burying. I have immense anger toward them. Their mother altered the course of my life, leading to a seven-year estrangement from my dad that ended when I reached out. So, I’ve done it once, should I do it again? Should I try to overcome this sibling estrangement and pursue a relationship? Is it worth it?
—Distressed Bride-to-Be