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Dec. 23rd, 2024
Geez, this woman....
Dec. 23rd, 2024 07:58 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
conulyDear Carolyn: I am a widow with an only child. I have spent Christmas with my son and his now-wife for the past three years. My son recently told me they would be “putting me up” in a “lovely hotel” this Christmas. Read, “You can’t stay with us!” I know this is coming from my daughter-in-law, who overreacted to a minor incident last Christmas.
I had found papers in the guest room desk that indicated: 1. My daughter-in-law is the recipient of a trust fund. (She never told me!!!) 2. The year before they married, she was in the hospital for a serious illness. (She never told me that, either!) The next morning at breakfast, I confronted her about hiding important information from me. She was unnecessarily upset and said I was snooping. I said if you don’t want guests to see papers, you shouldn’t leave them in the guest room! My son sided with her. Eventually, that blew over, and we had an okay Christmas.
After my son told me that I had to stay in a hotel, my daughter-in-law sent a fake-nice email saying she was looking forward to seeing me and was sure I would enjoy the hotel with its “festive holiday decorations.” They are footing the bill; I’m sure she can afford it with her trust fund.
I feel mistreated. I am furious at my son for taking sides against me and at her for manipulating my son into making me stay at a hotel. How can I get him to stand up to his wife? Doesn’t a widow deserve to stay at her only son’s home to celebrate Christmas with him?
— There IS Room at the Inn
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I had found papers in the guest room desk that indicated: 1. My daughter-in-law is the recipient of a trust fund. (She never told me!!!) 2. The year before they married, she was in the hospital for a serious illness. (She never told me that, either!) The next morning at breakfast, I confronted her about hiding important information from me. She was unnecessarily upset and said I was snooping. I said if you don’t want guests to see papers, you shouldn’t leave them in the guest room! My son sided with her. Eventually, that blew over, and we had an okay Christmas.
After my son told me that I had to stay in a hotel, my daughter-in-law sent a fake-nice email saying she was looking forward to seeing me and was sure I would enjoy the hotel with its “festive holiday decorations.” They are footing the bill; I’m sure she can afford it with her trust fund.
I feel mistreated. I am furious at my son for taking sides against me and at her for manipulating my son into making me stay at a hotel. How can I get him to stand up to his wife? Doesn’t a widow deserve to stay at her only son’s home to celebrate Christmas with him?
— There IS Room at the Inn
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conulyHi, Carolyn: I am concerned. My son and daughter-in-law are not teaching or modeling life skills to their children. They live in a two-bedroom condo in a large city. They have only one car, which my son drives to work at a hospital with irregular hours. My daughter-in-law works part time from home. My granddaughters are in kindergarten and preschool and walk to school.
They have a laundry service, grocery delivery and cleaners once a week. I think they hire out so many tasks, my grandchildren will flounder as adults. On weekends, my grandchildren go to museums, activities, parks and sporting events, and meet up with friends and family. It looks fun, but it’s also like every weekend is a special occasion. They visited us, and my granddaughters marveled at pumping gas because they’ve never seen it. Later, my son nonchalantly said, “I charge the car at work, and we don’t really drive with them much.”
Neither my son nor daughter-in-law seems concerned that their children are just learning about a very basic life skill that most kids are aware of so much earlier.
I don’t like the idea of spending rare time with my grandchildren doing chores. But I can’t think of another way for them to learn these essential tasks. Your advice?
— Grandparent
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They have a laundry service, grocery delivery and cleaners once a week. I think they hire out so many tasks, my grandchildren will flounder as adults. On weekends, my grandchildren go to museums, activities, parks and sporting events, and meet up with friends and family. It looks fun, but it’s also like every weekend is a special occasion. They visited us, and my granddaughters marveled at pumping gas because they’ve never seen it. Later, my son nonchalantly said, “I charge the car at work, and we don’t really drive with them much.”
Neither my son nor daughter-in-law seems concerned that their children are just learning about a very basic life skill that most kids are aware of so much earlier.
I don’t like the idea of spending rare time with my grandchildren doing chores. But I can’t think of another way for them to learn these essential tasks. Your advice?
— Grandparent
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