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ashbetDear Care and Feeding,
My 14-year-old daughter has purchased with her own babysitting money a pair of clear heels. In my opinion, as her father, these are stripper shoes and I don’t want her to wear them. This is becoming a really heated discussion, as her mom is neutral and not backing me up. Should I tell her that taking them back is nonnegotiable?
—Staying Off the Pole
Dear OTP,
Oh dear, I don’t think I like you at all. I’m sorry, that’s a tough way to open my answer. First of all, when I think “clear heels,” I think of Disco Stu first, and not nude or semi-nude dancers. I think you need to back off and also do some thinking about how you are coping with your daughter becoming a teenager and having the limited autonomy to make choices you will think are bad. Clear heels are very different from, say, shirts that show side-boob, or skirts that you cannot safely bend over in. I cannot imagine them getting a second look in 2019. I also think you should probably be less rude about people who dance erotically for money in order to pay rent; that is a super common but also unpleasant way for you to interact with the world.
I also want you to know that your wife “not backing you up” is not what is making the conversation heated. It is getting heated because you are angry about the shoes, and I think you should work on how you express yourself around your family.
My 14-year-old daughter has purchased with her own babysitting money a pair of clear heels. In my opinion, as her father, these are stripper shoes and I don’t want her to wear them. This is becoming a really heated discussion, as her mom is neutral and not backing me up. Should I tell her that taking them back is nonnegotiable?
—Staying Off the Pole
Dear OTP,
Oh dear, I don’t think I like you at all. I’m sorry, that’s a tough way to open my answer. First of all, when I think “clear heels,” I think of Disco Stu first, and not nude or semi-nude dancers. I think you need to back off and also do some thinking about how you are coping with your daughter becoming a teenager and having the limited autonomy to make choices you will think are bad. Clear heels are very different from, say, shirts that show side-boob, or skirts that you cannot safely bend over in. I cannot imagine them getting a second look in 2019. I also think you should probably be less rude about people who dance erotically for money in order to pay rent; that is a super common but also unpleasant way for you to interact with the world.
I also want you to know that your wife “not backing you up” is not what is making the conversation heated. It is getting heated because you are angry about the shoes, and I think you should work on how you express yourself around your family.