‘All kinds of things are bad partnering, whether or not they’re Objectively Wrong.'

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My husband has a strong urge for sex. I have been sexually unavailable to him because I was pregnant back-to-back with two kids after our marriage. He used to watch pornography frequently to cope with his desires. But recently I have seen that he has started paying escorts for live video sessions.

When I asked him about it, he said “What’s the difference between paid private video session and unpaid porn videos?” He says there’s no difference as he is not having any physical relationship with escorts.

I personally feel that he has made himself available to the escorts or vice versa and that’s very different from watching porn on websites. I am not comfortable with the paid video sessions and I feel betrayed. What should I do? Let it go? Is he cheating or is he not? I am confused.

( Eleanor Gordon-Smith Leading questions Relationships replies )