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ermingardenDear Miss Manners: My email was hacked. Some of my loving, trusting, generous — and also naive — friends were tricked into sending money to scammers, because they thought they were helping me.
I am grateful to have such friends, but naturally, I feel rotten about this. Everybody tells me I am not to blame — even the ones who were defrauded — but I still feel guilty and responsible.
My etiquette problem is that part of the scam was the promise of repayment. That will not happen.
My friends may not be able to afford losing the money they thought they were simply loaning to me on a short-term basis. As it happens, though technically not responsible, I can help, and I’m anxious to. How do I go about it in a delicate and sensitive way? They may have their pride.
Become exceedingly generous whenever you can, bestowing presents on these people.
That should quell any issues of pride. But if they question your generosity, Miss Manners suggests you tell them, “Let’s just say this is from me and the ‘prince’ who scammed you.”
I am grateful to have such friends, but naturally, I feel rotten about this. Everybody tells me I am not to blame — even the ones who were defrauded — but I still feel guilty and responsible.
My etiquette problem is that part of the scam was the promise of repayment. That will not happen.
My friends may not be able to afford losing the money they thought they were simply loaning to me on a short-term basis. As it happens, though technically not responsible, I can help, and I’m anxious to. How do I go about it in a delicate and sensitive way? They may have their pride.
Become exceedingly generous whenever you can, bestowing presents on these people.
That should quell any issues of pride. But if they question your generosity, Miss Manners suggests you tell them, “Let’s just say this is from me and the ‘prince’ who scammed you.”