Surprise Revelation Of Twins' Paternity Is A Family Bombshell

[conuly]

DEAR ABBY: My son's new wife -- who has a daughter -- insisted that his two children are not biologically his. After a DNA test, it turns out she was right. They aren't. My son, my husband and I are heartbroken. His twins are 10, and they don't understand what's going on.

My husband and I are trying to gently remain in their lives with phone calls and limited visits. My son's wife refuses to visit with us until we stop communicating with the children, promise never to talk about them and display no pictures in our home. She's trying to convince our son to stop seeing us, as well. What to do? -- DISAPPOINTED IN TEXAS

DEAR DISAPPOINTED: Those children, regardless of who their birth father is, were raised believing you and your husband are their grandparents. If you love them, do not knuckle under to your son's new wife or it will be only the beginning of how she will attempt to control you.

She does not have the right to dictate who you (or your son, for that matter) see and communicate with. She also does not have the right to order you to remove any object from your home.

If your son opts to turn his back on those children, that's a decision only he can make. If he also chooses to turn his back on you, then you raised a milquetoast instead of a man.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearabby/s-2479655

Comments

[shirou]

So the son’s new wife suspected her husband’s twin children weren’t biologically related to him and turned out to be right. Presumably the kids live with their mother. Now the new wife has convinced her husband to cut the twins out of his life—LW doesn’t say this, but it’s the only way I can make sense of the letter—and is pressuring him to cut out his parents unless they, too, cease contact with the twins and pretend they never existed.

Not that anyone in this community needs reminding, but a ten-year relationship is real and not invalidated by a DNA test.

The new wife is a horrible human being, and so is LW’s son for giving in to her demands. LW is in a terrible position to have to choose between her son and grandchildren, but the son is at fault, and the grandchildren are innocent victims. LW, please choose your grandchildren.

[watersword]

Thank you for unpacking this, I was genuinely confused about who was who here. That said, I stand by my reaction: what the fuck.

[shirou]

You are welcome! The letter was written obtusely. And I agree with you completely: What the fuck is wrong with these people!? Those poor kids.