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conuly ([personal profile] conuly) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2021-02-19 01:51 pm

Surprise Revelation Of Twins' Paternity Is A Family Bombshell

DEAR ABBY: My son's new wife -- who has a daughter -- insisted that his two children are not biologically his. After a DNA test, it turns out she was right. They aren't. My son, my husband and I are heartbroken. His twins are 10, and they don't understand what's going on.

My husband and I are trying to gently remain in their lives with phone calls and limited visits. My son's wife refuses to visit with us until we stop communicating with the children, promise never to talk about them and display no pictures in our home. She's trying to convince our son to stop seeing us, as well. What to do? -- DISAPPOINTED IN TEXAS


DEAR DISAPPOINTED: Those children, regardless of who their birth father is, were raised believing you and your husband are their grandparents. If you love them, do not knuckle under to your son's new wife or it will be only the beginning of how she will attempt to control you.

She does not have the right to dictate who you (or your son, for that matter) see and communicate with. She also does not have the right to order you to remove any object from your home.

If your son opts to turn his back on those children, that's a decision only he can make. If he also chooses to turn his back on you, then you raised a milquetoast instead of a man.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearabby/s-2479655
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[personal profile] juniperphoenix 2021-02-19 08:05 pm (UTC)(link)
The letter is confusingly worded, but my read was that the son recently remarried and the twins are from a previous relationship. New wife is trying to kick out stepchildren who have been part of the family longer than she has.
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[personal profile] cereta 2021-02-19 09:03 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, wow, yeah, I missed the "new" in "new wife," and that pretty much makes her unreservedly vile.
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[personal profile] torachan 2021-02-20 01:49 am (UTC)(link)
Ohhhhh! I did see the "new" in new wife, but I still thought the children were hers (like she had kids with him ten years ago but they were only just now gettng married) and for some reason she was having a DNA test to prove to him that the kids weren't his and I was so confused. But I think your reading is what happened and now it makes a lot more sense. New wife sounds terrible.