Surprise Revelation Of Twins' Paternity Is A Family Bombshell

[conuly]

DEAR ABBY: My son's new wife -- who has a daughter -- insisted that his two children are not biologically his. After a DNA test, it turns out she was right. They aren't. My son, my husband and I are heartbroken. His twins are 10, and they don't understand what's going on.

My husband and I are trying to gently remain in their lives with phone calls and limited visits. My son's wife refuses to visit with us until we stop communicating with the children, promise never to talk about them and display no pictures in our home. She's trying to convince our son to stop seeing us, as well. What to do? -- DISAPPOINTED IN TEXAS

DEAR DISAPPOINTED: Those children, regardless of who their birth father is, were raised believing you and your husband are their grandparents. If you love them, do not knuckle under to your son's new wife or it will be only the beginning of how she will attempt to control you.

She does not have the right to dictate who you (or your son, for that matter) see and communicate with. She also does not have the right to order you to remove any object from your home.

If your son opts to turn his back on those children, that's a decision only he can make. If he also chooses to turn his back on you, then you raised a milquetoast instead of a man.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearabby/s-2479655

Comments

[conuly]

Wow, DIL is way, way, way out of line here.

[jadelennox]

True, but not as out of line as the son. The son never should've agreed to the paternity test in the first place, but if he had a good reason to (e.g. genetic counseling), he should have not gone into the situation under any kind of agreement that if the kids were not his he would stop seeing them. He believed for a decade that they were his kids. If he stopped seeing them just because of this paternity test, he can be yeeted straight into the son. And if his new wife insisted upon it, his responsibility was to DTMFA and maintain his relationship with his kids. And if he is allowing his wife to make this ultimatum to his parents, then, seriously, the pair of them deserve each other, and nobody else deserves either of them.

[conuly]

I see your point - but given how far out of line New Wife is, and how much this sounds like an abuse situation, I'm giving him a tiny bit less horrible points.