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This question does not feel real
From Ask Amy:
Dear Amy: I am an old grandma with 10 step-grandchildren, the youngest of which is 18 and in her first year of college.
That child receives a substantial scholarship from me for her college.
Of the 10 grandkids, she is the only one who does not follow me on my cat’s Instagram account, which has over 5,000 followers.
She does follow her other grandma on Instagram, which is perplexing to me.
Not that I am begging for followers, but I think it’s a charitable and loving thing to do, especially when I have been generous and loving toward her.
I have not discussed this with her mother.
Am I wrong to think that would be a loving thing for her to do?
It’s just a cat account for Pete’s sake!
— Upset Grandmother
Grandmother: Yes, it’s just a cat account, for Pete’s sake.
And yet, for you it doesn’t seem to be just a cat account.
You have been careful to mention your financial support to this granddaughter. Are you implying that you are buying followers? I hope not.
Ask your granddaughter: “Did you know that ‘Muffin’ has become an Instagram influencer? I’d love it if you would follow the account. I’m having a lot of fun with it.”
It is not fair for you to imply that this is a primary way for your granddaughter to love you.
It is one way for her to love you, but it is not the only way.
Dear Amy: I am an old grandma with 10 step-grandchildren, the youngest of which is 18 and in her first year of college.
That child receives a substantial scholarship from me for her college.
Of the 10 grandkids, she is the only one who does not follow me on my cat’s Instagram account, which has over 5,000 followers.
She does follow her other grandma on Instagram, which is perplexing to me.
Not that I am begging for followers, but I think it’s a charitable and loving thing to do, especially when I have been generous and loving toward her.
I have not discussed this with her mother.
Am I wrong to think that would be a loving thing for her to do?
It’s just a cat account for Pete’s sake!
— Upset Grandmother
Grandmother: Yes, it’s just a cat account, for Pete’s sake.
And yet, for you it doesn’t seem to be just a cat account.
You have been careful to mention your financial support to this granddaughter. Are you implying that you are buying followers? I hope not.
Ask your granddaughter: “Did you know that ‘Muffin’ has become an Instagram influencer? I’d love it if you would follow the account. I’m having a lot of fun with it.”
It is not fair for you to imply that this is a primary way for your granddaughter to love you.
It is one way for her to love you, but it is not the only way.
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