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DEAR ABBY: My husband and I received a worrisome email from our 20-something-year-old son, a graduate student some distance away. He wrote that he is recovering from wounds of his childhood. (We thought we were loving, supportive parents.) He indicated he will come home for visits only if we comply with his demands -- about 10 were listed -- and accused us of some things we never did.

On the advice of my counselor -- I have a history of depression, which is in remission -- I wrote agreeing to his demands in order to keep the lines of communication open. My husband refuses to do this. He is overwhelmingly hurt, angry and frustrated. He says he will not walk on eggshells in his own home. Our son is our only child. What can or should we do? -- HEARTBROKEN IN OHIO

DEAR HEARTBROKEN: Nobody should have to walk on eggshells. If ever I heard of a family that could benefit from family counseling, you three are it. Your doctor or insurance company can refer you to someone who is licensed and competent. Please don't wait.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/dearabby/s-2319477

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Is Abby just copy-and-pasting Issendai's estrangement essays for her letters now? This takes in the Missing Missing Reasons, Estranged Parents and Boundaries, and "we were perfectly adequate parents", at least, and I think there are probably a couple more.

Abby would do better if she were doing that.

thought that too, yeah