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agonyaunt2025-03-11 09:17 am
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Ask a Manager: Complimenting a Coworker's Name
Pretty brief.
#4 Can I tell a female worker that she has a beautiful name when we are introduced or will I get in trouble? I’m a man.
Would you ever tell a male coworker that? I’m guessing no, which is a good litmus test indicating you shouldn’t say it to a female colleague either.
Most women really don’t want male colleagues commenting on their face/hair/smile/name/other things they don’t have any control over; even if your intentions are wholesome, it’s going to feel rooted in relating to them as a woman, rather than as a professional person who’s at work. Interact with us the same way you would interact with male colleagues, please.
#4 Can I tell a female worker that she has a beautiful name when we are introduced or will I get in trouble? I’m a man.
Would you ever tell a male coworker that? I’m guessing no, which is a good litmus test indicating you shouldn’t say it to a female colleague either.
Most women really don’t want male colleagues commenting on their face/hair/smile/name/other things they don’t have any control over; even if your intentions are wholesome, it’s going to feel rooted in relating to them as a woman, rather than as a professional person who’s at work. Interact with us the same way you would interact with male colleagues, please.