Annie's Mailbox: Religion and Family

[cereta]

Dear Annie: My longtime boyfriend and I recently married. My entire family was there. They adore my husband. But not a single member of his family attended our little church wedding.

The morning of our wedding, one of his sisters texted my fiance and asked whether it was "done yet." When I made a comment on my Facebook page about how amazing my new husband is, this same sister rudely commented, "Enough already."

My boyfriend finally told me that this sister thought we should marry in a Catholic church, despite the fact that I am not Catholic and both of us attend a non-Catholic church. I believe this is why his family didn't recognize our special day. I am really hurt. Should I say something or simply ignore this? -- Biting My Tongue in Colorado

Dear Colorado: Your husband should have told you about his family's religious objections before you married. An intermarriage is hardly a trivial matter, and if you have been with this man for a long time, we are surprised you were not aware of the issue. If his family is otherwise accepting, we would let this go. We also suggest you discuss the problem with your clergyperson and ask for guidance.

Comments

[cereta]

That makes sense. I think it was their use of the term "intermarriage" that made me blink for a few seconds, although that's My Family History; Let Me Show It.