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Ermingarden ([personal profile] ermingarden) wrote in [community profile] agonyaunt2022-01-27 03:41 am
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Miss Manners: First Date on His Birthday

Dear Miss Manners: I have a date with a guy I met three years ago. We have communicated on and off, and now he is coming to town and has asked me out. The date is on his birthday, and I don’t know whether I should do something for him!

Asking someone for a first — or first-in-a-while — date on one’s birthday is like bringing along your parents: It skips necessary steps on the way to developing a relationship.

For that reason, Miss Manners would have changed the day, had she known. Because it is too late for that, you should bring a token gift — inexpensive and lighthearted — while he should insist that he has never attached much importance to the day — which is not really plausible, because he must have been the one who told you.
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[personal profile] torachan 2022-01-28 08:28 am (UTC)(link)
Even if he was the one who told the LW when his birthday is, that doesn't preclude him not attaching much importance to it. I don't tend to do anything for my birthday but that doesn't mean I try to hide when it is.
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[personal profile] shirou 2022-01-29 12:30 am (UTC)(link)
This was my first thought. LW can say “happy birthday” and otherwise forget about it.