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agonyaunt2021-11-29 03:42 pm
minoanmiss) wrote in agonyaunt2021-11-29 03:42 pm
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Dear Prudence: My Wife Thinks Our Gay Son Can Date Straight Guys If...
This one is a doozy, utterly fake, or maybe a mix.
Gay son or trans daughter: Our teenage son came out as gay. He does not have a boyfriend, and due to the pandemic, we would have discouraged intimate relationships regardless.
However, my wife now wants him to become a girl, so that when he’s ready, he can date straight guys. She says she’s worried about STDs, which she thinks are a much greater risk for gays. She even wants me to dress as a woman, as an example for our son. She showed me dress designs and various feminization activities. Crossdressing actually does sound fun, but this seems like a very bad reason to do so. Do I need to shut this down?
Yes, you need to shut this down. Please tell your wife not to say a word about this to your son. Present her with some kindergarten-level explanations of the difference between sexuality and gender identity and repeat them until they seem to sink in. Try to give her a basic lesson on why her homophobic beliefs don’t hold water, and end with some general principles about how parents don’t get to decide about anything related to relationships for their children. When you think she’s somewhat up to speed on being a reasonable person in 2021, you can take a step back and think about the fact that she very clearly wants you to cross dress and you seem interested too. Good for the two of you. Enjoy. Focus on that and let your kid live his life while you live yours.
Gay son or trans daughter: Our teenage son came out as gay. He does not have a boyfriend, and due to the pandemic, we would have discouraged intimate relationships regardless.
However, my wife now wants him to become a girl, so that when he’s ready, he can date straight guys. She says she’s worried about STDs, which she thinks are a much greater risk for gays. She even wants me to dress as a woman, as an example for our son. She showed me dress designs and various feminization activities. Crossdressing actually does sound fun, but this seems like a very bad reason to do so. Do I need to shut this down?
Yes, you need to shut this down. Please tell your wife not to say a word about this to your son. Present her with some kindergarten-level explanations of the difference between sexuality and gender identity and repeat them until they seem to sink in. Try to give her a basic lesson on why her homophobic beliefs don’t hold water, and end with some general principles about how parents don’t get to decide about anything related to relationships for their children. When you think she’s somewhat up to speed on being a reasonable person in 2021, you can take a step back and think about the fact that she very clearly wants you to cross dress and you seem interested too. Good for the two of you. Enjoy. Focus on that and let your kid live his life while you live yours.
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