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Ask a Manager: How Can I Come Out As Queer Mid-Career?
I’ve been with my employer for over 10 years and in that time my personal identity has shifted significantly from the professional identity I projected at my hiring. I allowed my colleagues to assume I was a straight, cisgender woman in a monogamous relationship. That was never true but when I was younger I was willing to hide key parts of my identity for a significant career opportunity.
Something about having my colleagues “in” my home via Zoom has made the separation between my personal and professional life more upsetting. Addintally we have an active team working to deepen our diversity and I struggle with the exclusion of LGBTQIA+ identities from that work. The reality is I am a non-binary, bisexual human in a polyamorous relationship. How can I redefine myself as a queer person at work?
Something about having my colleagues “in” my home via Zoom has made the separation between my personal and professional life more upsetting. Addintally we have an active team working to deepen our diversity and I struggle with the exclusion of LGBTQIA+ identities from that work. The reality is I am a non-binary, bisexual human in a polyamorous relationship. How can I redefine myself as a queer person at work?
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Then the second is about being out at work if you want to be. Which is pretty situational and depends on the vibe. Seems like the work environment is one that's not super accepting but where people know writer well which is like Advanced Coming Out. I would do the slow game of having a plan and dropping hints but I once accidentally came out to my boss because he said exes could never stay in the same social circle and I had to be like well as a lesbian... So, I am bad at following that kind of advice.
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https://boston.cbslocal.com/2016/05/04/scott-eck-transgender-kristen-eck-wbz-traffic-reporter/
(The first time I heard the new name, I called the traffic report line to offer congratulations.)
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Can you elaborate on your reasoning behind the nonbinary part depending on a pronoun change?
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"Depending" was the wrong word, or rather, I meant how the LW might handle it depends on whether they want a pronoun change. If they don't, then just telling people individually however they feel comfortable is probably best. If they do, it's probably a good idea to involve a higher-up to initiate a formal process.
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