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[conuly]

Dear Amy: I have been married to my husband for four years. His entire family hates me. He was raised a strict Mormon but left the church long before he met me. Yet his family openly blames me for "making him " turn his back on religion.

They are upset with me because I will not have any more children (my husband does not have biological children of his own). They ignore me any time we are around them, even at our wedding. How can I get them to see that they are toxic, and it's not all me, as they constantly claim? — Frustrated in Washington

Dear Frustrated: You should not engage in a contest with your in-laws to prove who is more “toxic.” In fact, if these people consistently treat you badly, you should reduce your contact with them. Your husband should also push back, calmly, every single time they disrespect you.

Distance and detachment will be a liberation for you.

https://www.arcamax.com/healthandspirit/lifeadvice/askamy/s-2404383?fs

Comments

[cimorene]

I came here to say "Amy is right?!"

[cereta]

I will say that Amy is a little less gone on the Cult of Family than, say, Annie (the Mansons were a little less gone on that than she is, in fairness). From the tidbits she drops about her own background, I think she's actually experienced complicated relationships at some point.