Dear Abby: Couple is Divided on Division of Labor

[cereta]

DEAR ABBY: Can you settle a dispute between my husband and me? Sometimes, I take it upon myself to hand-wash my car because I enjoy seeing my hard work reflected in my shiny car. When I do, it sparks an argument.

His view is that since he's the man, he should be responsible for washing the car. He says there are certain things "women just don't do." I think I'm perfectly capable of washing my car. Should I give up and let him take care of washing my car, or should I stand my ground? -- JUST AS CAPABLE

DEAR CAPABLE: If you want to wash your car occasionally, it should not be grounds for an argument. Many women do, and it's not an issue. However, because your husband seems to find it emasculating, let me suggest that rather than argue about it you allow him to spoil you by doing it for you from time to time. And when he does, if you feel compelled to polish something, let it be your nails while he's out there sweating in the driveway.

Comments

[eleanorjane]

GET FUCKED.

Ahem.

[jadelennox]

My BFF has finally Dumped The MF Already, after he was psychologically abusive for years. While the ex's parents agree that his behaviour crossed all the lines, the ex's dad has claimed for years -- to both my BFF and to the ex -- that because mt BFF paid the bills and shit when the ex screwed up the money, she was, and I quote, "emasculating him." BFF is so gaslit that she still kind of agrees with this. It's one of the reasons it took her so many years to get him the hell out of the house. This is a guy who has now spent multiple nights in jail for violating her restraining orders, and the ex-father-in-law still claims she drove him to it by "emasculating him."

Which is a longwinded way of agreeing with you completely. Abby can fucking get fucked, and then she can go fucking volunteer in a domestic violence shelter. Jumping Jesus on a pogo stick.