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Not enough romance, times two
1. DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My daughter just turned 22 and she has yet to have so much as a casual boyfriend. She and her single friends go out either in a big group, or they get together at one another’s homes.
By my daughter’s age I had already had a couple of serious boyfriends and had started dating my future husband. I worry that she is missing out on what I found was both a fun and educational part of life. Should I be worried? --- MOTHER OF A LATE BLOOMER
DEAR MOTHER OF A LATE BLOOMER: No, I don’t believe you need to be worried about your daughter’s not yet having been in a romantic relationship. She and her friends are choosing to make their own way, at their own pace.
Many young people these days are focusing on a variety of aspects of their lives rather than looking for love, and that’s okay. It can be a good thing, as a matter of fact, for people to have a better sense of themselves and where they want to go in life before they consider sharing that life with someone else.
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2. Dear Annie: After nine years of waiting for him to propose, I finally decided to take matters into my own hands and popped the question myself. His response? He said he'd need to "see what his finances look like" -- and then a week later, he broke up with me via text.
Looking back, it's painfully clear: If he doesn't ask, he doesn't want to. What are your thoughts on situations like this? Should women ever propose, or does this only set them up for heartbreak if the feelings aren't mutual? -- Women Proposing
Dear Proposing: First and foremost, it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Thank goodness he didn't say yes. With that being said, I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman proposing to a man. We are living in 2025.
It shouldn't matter who pops the question, as long as both people are ready and willing to commit. However, your experience highlights an important truth: If one partner isn't fully invested or ready, no proposal -- no matter who makes it -- can change that.
This situation taught you a valuable lesson, which is that actions speak louder than words. If someone isn't showing consistent effort or commitment, it's often a sign that they may not be ready for the relationship you deserve.
You deserve someone who's as excited about building a future with you as you are with them.
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By my daughter’s age I had already had a couple of serious boyfriends and had started dating my future husband. I worry that she is missing out on what I found was both a fun and educational part of life. Should I be worried? --- MOTHER OF A LATE BLOOMER
DEAR MOTHER OF A LATE BLOOMER: No, I don’t believe you need to be worried about your daughter’s not yet having been in a romantic relationship. She and her friends are choosing to make their own way, at their own pace.
Many young people these days are focusing on a variety of aspects of their lives rather than looking for love, and that’s okay. It can be a good thing, as a matter of fact, for people to have a better sense of themselves and where they want to go in life before they consider sharing that life with someone else.
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2. Dear Annie: After nine years of waiting for him to propose, I finally decided to take matters into my own hands and popped the question myself. His response? He said he'd need to "see what his finances look like" -- and then a week later, he broke up with me via text.
Looking back, it's painfully clear: If he doesn't ask, he doesn't want to. What are your thoughts on situations like this? Should women ever propose, or does this only set them up for heartbreak if the feelings aren't mutual? -- Women Proposing
Dear Proposing: First and foremost, it sounds like you dodged a bullet. Thank goodness he didn't say yes. With that being said, I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman proposing to a man. We are living in 2025.
It shouldn't matter who pops the question, as long as both people are ready and willing to commit. However, your experience highlights an important truth: If one partner isn't fully invested or ready, no proposal -- no matter who makes it -- can change that.
This situation taught you a valuable lesson, which is that actions speak louder than words. If someone isn't showing consistent effort or commitment, it's often a sign that they may not be ready for the relationship you deserve.
You deserve someone who's as excited about building a future with you as you are with them.
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