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agonyaunt2022-01-12 12:33 pm
minoanmiss) wrote in agonyaunt2022-01-12 12:33 pm
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Dear Prudence: My PE Teacher Shows Us Wildly Inappropriate Videos
Content advisory: blatant sexual harassment of minors, plus one of said minors condoning the harassment.
Oversexualized and overtired of excuses: My PE teacher is at best a viewer of lewd YouTube videos and at worst a full-on pervert. He often plays videos for us in class, and once, his recommendations popped up. At least half were “calming music” with pictures of women in bikinis with, erm, large bottoms. Something tells me it wasn’t calming music he was interested in. Another time, his “recommended for you” showed a naked woman whose breast was barely concealed by her arm. Once, my friend had to use his computer for a project and accidentally clicked onto the wrong tab. It was a picture of underwear! My teacher also showed us a lewd video in class about a guy who asks out hundreds of women doing yoga. It was meant to be funny, but it just felt uncomfortable. Yet another time, he played a video of people doing exercises with music for us to listen to while we did exercises ourselves, but they were all girls. The video was not approved for viewing by our district, but he can bypass that. All of this is on his school account.
Even worse, I’m one of his favorite students, and I hate it. My friends and I try to make the best of it, but it’s weird and creepy! My male friend is in the same class and whenever I complain about the teacher, he tries to step in and make excuses for him. He’s the sort of person who sees the best in everyone (it’s exhausting) and doesn’t understand that no one wants to hear “I think he’s just trying his best to be a good teacher, and it’s probably an accident” after a rant about a possibly perverted teacher. I am so frustrated, especially since it feels like he’s just dismissing all of my concerns. How do I politely correct him next time he tries to make an excuse for this weird teacher? To be honest, I would like to hit him over the head with my heaviest textbook, but that’s not helpful at all.
A: Your teacher knows exactly what he’s doing; it isn’t OK and you absolutely do not have to make the best of it! I want you to think of the adult in your life who has historically listened to you the most and shown the most concern for the well-being of kids and teens. Maybe that’s one of your other teachers, or a parent or a friend’s parent. Tell them exactly what you told me. The school needs to know about this, and any responsible adult will understand that and make it happen. It’s not your job to convince your male friend of the problem (it would be great if he understood and stood up for you, but he’s not there), but it is your right to address it and your obligation to make sure other kids aren’t exposed to this creepy behavior.
Oversexualized and overtired of excuses: My PE teacher is at best a viewer of lewd YouTube videos and at worst a full-on pervert. He often plays videos for us in class, and once, his recommendations popped up. At least half were “calming music” with pictures of women in bikinis with, erm, large bottoms. Something tells me it wasn’t calming music he was interested in. Another time, his “recommended for you” showed a naked woman whose breast was barely concealed by her arm. Once, my friend had to use his computer for a project and accidentally clicked onto the wrong tab. It was a picture of underwear! My teacher also showed us a lewd video in class about a guy who asks out hundreds of women doing yoga. It was meant to be funny, but it just felt uncomfortable. Yet another time, he played a video of people doing exercises with music for us to listen to while we did exercises ourselves, but they were all girls. The video was not approved for viewing by our district, but he can bypass that. All of this is on his school account.
Even worse, I’m one of his favorite students, and I hate it. My friends and I try to make the best of it, but it’s weird and creepy! My male friend is in the same class and whenever I complain about the teacher, he tries to step in and make excuses for him. He’s the sort of person who sees the best in everyone (it’s exhausting) and doesn’t understand that no one wants to hear “I think he’s just trying his best to be a good teacher, and it’s probably an accident” after a rant about a possibly perverted teacher. I am so frustrated, especially since it feels like he’s just dismissing all of my concerns. How do I politely correct him next time he tries to make an excuse for this weird teacher? To be honest, I would like to hit him over the head with my heaviest textbook, but that’s not helpful at all.
A: Your teacher knows exactly what he’s doing; it isn’t OK and you absolutely do not have to make the best of it! I want you to think of the adult in your life who has historically listened to you the most and shown the most concern for the well-being of kids and teens. Maybe that’s one of your other teachers, or a parent or a friend’s parent. Tell them exactly what you told me. The school needs to know about this, and any responsible adult will understand that and make it happen. It’s not your job to convince your male friend of the problem (it would be great if he understood and stood up for you, but he’s not there), but it is your right to address it and your obligation to make sure other kids aren’t exposed to this creepy behavior.