Dear Abby: Relationship finances, sorta

[cereta]

DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend and I each own our homes and have about the same mortgage payment. She ends up staying with me most of the time because I live closer to where we both work.

I recently found out that she has been Airbnbing her condo a lot of the weekends when she stays with me. I feel taken advantage of even though it doesn't really affect me whether her place is empty or she's getting rent.

What is the etiquette on such an arrangement? Should I be getting a cut? I feel if I told her I wanted to stay at her place and rent out mine, she would want some of the money. -- WEEKEND ROOMIES

DEAR WEEKEND ROOMIES: There is no rule of etiquette governing whether you're entitled to some of the income she receives from renting out her place while she's visiting you. Discuss this with your entrepreneurial girlfriend and see how she feels about sharing the wealth. Her reaction will give insight into her character.

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[amadi]

This is where I am, having read all the discussion I circle back here because this screams volume about him, the assumptions that he's making about her and her motives, and about what he's entitled to -- not contribution to offset additional expenses he has when she stays at his place, but specifically a piece of her AirBnB income -- paint a pretty awful picture of him.

Unless he has some evidence that she manipulated him into inviting her to spend weekends at his place, or refused to alternate weekends with him so that she could make more money, they aren't permanently cohabiting, and aren't commingling finances yet, so her AirBnB venture isn't really his business, and he's tipped his hand trying to claim that it is.