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Dear Abby: Relationship finances, sorta
DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend and I each own our homes and have about the same mortgage payment. She ends up staying with me most of the time because I live closer to where we both work.
I recently found out that she has been Airbnbing her condo a lot of the weekends when she stays with me. I feel taken advantage of even though it doesn't really affect me whether her place is empty or she's getting rent.
What is the etiquette on such an arrangement? Should I be getting a cut? I feel if I told her I wanted to stay at her place and rent out mine, she would want some of the money. -- WEEKEND ROOMIES
DEAR WEEKEND ROOMIES: There is no rule of etiquette governing whether you're entitled to some of the income she receives from renting out her place while she's visiting you. Discuss this with your entrepreneurial girlfriend and see how she feels about sharing the wealth. Her reaction will give insight into her character.
I recently found out that she has been Airbnbing her condo a lot of the weekends when she stays with me. I feel taken advantage of even though it doesn't really affect me whether her place is empty or she's getting rent.
What is the etiquette on such an arrangement? Should I be getting a cut? I feel if I told her I wanted to stay at her place and rent out mine, she would want some of the money. -- WEEKEND ROOMIES
DEAR WEEKEND ROOMIES: There is no rule of etiquette governing whether you're entitled to some of the income she receives from renting out her place while she's visiting you. Discuss this with your entrepreneurial girlfriend and see how she feels about sharing the wealth. Her reaction will give insight into her character.
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a) it's implied that the GF here was not open about this and it seems a strange thing never to have come up in conversation
b) the LW clearly feels that she would want a cut vice versa so it feels, especially combined with the above, that she has tried to conceal it in order to profit from the situation.
If it's more convenient to stay at his more often, that's fine and I wouldn't necessarily say that she should be giving him like a percentage of the airbnb rent but I do think she should be contributing to his bills - otherwise, she is essentially profiting massively from this, she's reducing her commute, getting air bnb rent and he is probably paying for all/most of the food at his place.
In his situation, I'd probably say something like "that sounds like a great idea, let's alternate weekends and I'll put my place on airbnb half the time as well".