Dear Abby: Relationship finances, sorta

[cereta]

DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend and I each own our homes and have about the same mortgage payment. She ends up staying with me most of the time because I live closer to where we both work.

I recently found out that she has been Airbnbing her condo a lot of the weekends when she stays with me. I feel taken advantage of even though it doesn't really affect me whether her place is empty or she's getting rent.

What is the etiquette on such an arrangement? Should I be getting a cut? I feel if I told her I wanted to stay at her place and rent out mine, she would want some of the money. -- WEEKEND ROOMIES

DEAR WEEKEND ROOMIES: There is no rule of etiquette governing whether you're entitled to some of the income she receives from renting out her place while she's visiting you. Discuss this with your entrepreneurial girlfriend and see how she feels about sharing the wealth. Her reaction will give insight into her character.

Comments

[recessional]

That's the big question, though, isn't it - IS the girlfriend working on the assumption that she'd go get a hotel room? Or is the girlfriend working on the assumption that she has a standing right to his space?

Neither is actually indicated by the letter, you know?

[kaberett]

I mean, I would read the letter as implying that there is a standing assumption that she'll spend time there, and/or that she's letting it out at weekends when it's been agreed that she'll be visiting (and so hotel would only be necessary if they Had A Fight or whatever)? But also as THEY HAVEN'T TALKED ABOUT ANY OF THIS because WHY WOULD THEY DO THAT.