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[conuly]

DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend does not believe in shaving her armpit hair, and it’s starting to become an issue. She believes that shaving armpit hair is unnatural and conformist. She didn’t have these beliefs when we first started dating, so I feel that it’s unfair for her to expect me to have no problem with it now. I’m afraid to ask her to shave because I don’t want to seem like I do not support this journey (although I do find it questionable). What can I do? -- Girlfriend Going Natural

DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend does not believe in shaving her armpit hair, and it’s starting to become an issue. She believes that shaving armpit hair is unnatural and conformist. She didn’t have these beliefs when we first started dating, so I feel that it’s unfair for her to expect me to have no problem with it now. I’m afraid to ask her to shave because I don’t want to seem like I do not support this journey (although I do find it questionable). What can I do? -- Girlfriend Going Natural

https://www.uexpress.com/life/sense-and-sensitivity/2021/12/03/1

Comments

[lilysea]

I stopped shaving my armpits years ago

because shaved armpits = painful rash

and for me, my armpit hair has always been a bullshit detector

if someone doesn't want to date me because I don't shave my armpits, they don't deserve me

there's a significant [tho admittedly not 100%] overlap between "men who can't handle women with unshaved armpits" and "men who believe more than the average amount of sexist bullshit"

How can I control her appearance without seeming like I'm trying to control her?

[feldman]

This has been my experience; if you can't handle my fuzzy pits, you're really not gonna groove with the rest of the package, and you're probably going to be shitty about it to boot.

IME, I have way less skin or odor problems when not shaving, also it's bullshit, also, I kinda dig having primate arms. I hope LW's girlfriend finds someone who will love her pits, support her journeys big and small, and not consider her appearance to be an asset of his that she's depreciating.