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DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend does not believe in shaving her armpit hair, and it’s starting to become an issue. She believes that shaving armpit hair is unnatural and conformist. She didn’t have these beliefs when we first started dating, so I feel that it’s unfair for her to expect me to have no problem with it now. I’m afraid to ask her to shave because I don’t want to seem like I do not support this journey (although I do find it questionable). What can I do? -- Girlfriend Going Natural

DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend does not believe in shaving her armpit hair, and it’s starting to become an issue. She believes that shaving armpit hair is unnatural and conformist. She didn’t have these beliefs when we first started dating, so I feel that it’s unfair for her to expect me to have no problem with it now. I’m afraid to ask her to shave because I don’t want to seem like I do not support this journey (although I do find it questionable). What can I do? -- Girlfriend Going Natural

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I shave my armpits in summer only, and that's because I can smell myself a lot faster if there's hair. Personal preference.

(Legs are different, the feel of hair catching in the fabric of trousers or longer skirts is a Big Sensory Issue)

*lightbulb*

Your comment just helped me realize why I was always more likely to shave in winter when I was wearing tights, rather than in the summer when my legs were bare.

Oh gosh yes, winter it's even Nair or something because the catch in leggings or tights are nightmare fuel.

Interesting! This was a large part of my reasoning for never shaving my legs: because stubble in tights is the absolute *worst*, so my options were shave like twice a day, or never shave at all. And I knew I wasn't going to do option 1.

The stubble wasn't as much of an issue for me, but once the hair was long enough to get pulled the wrong direction? I was DONE.

(Interestingly enough, as I've aged the hair on my legs has thinned out enough that it no longer bothers me at any length.)

I get the long hair caught in leggings too and it is the wooooorssst, although I don't have sensory issues with stubble.

(I shave my pits regularly because I use go through deodorant way too fast when I don't. (the hair bites through the deodorant like coarse sandpaper. ))