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DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend does not believe in shaving her armpit hair, and it’s starting to become an issue. She believes that shaving armpit hair is unnatural and conformist. She didn’t have these beliefs when we first started dating, so I feel that it’s unfair for her to expect me to have no problem with it now. I’m afraid to ask her to shave because I don’t want to seem like I do not support this journey (although I do find it questionable). What can I do? -- Girlfriend Going Natural

DEAR HARRIETTE: My girlfriend does not believe in shaving her armpit hair, and it’s starting to become an issue. She believes that shaving armpit hair is unnatural and conformist. She didn’t have these beliefs when we first started dating, so I feel that it’s unfair for her to expect me to have no problem with it now. I’m afraid to ask her to shave because I don’t want to seem like I do not support this journey (although I do find it questionable). What can I do? -- Girlfriend Going Natural

https://www.uexpress.com/life/sense-and-sensitivity/2021/12/03/1

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If you followed the reply to see Harriette's response... well, it made me angry, and that's all I can say about it.

Yes! This is ridiculous:
If possible, be patient and allow this moment to pass. You will see what comes of the underarm hair after your girlfriend goes through her own evolution on this topic.

I stopped shaving over 30 years ago and never went back. I still think it’s conformist bs. The only evolution has been occasional trimming shorter of armpit hair, as sporky says, for less odor trapping. Legs I don’t touch at all. (And the BF I had at the time didn’t mind either way, and no one has minded since.)

me too!

"If it is purely aesthetics, you may ask her not to wear sleeveless tops."

I mean, yes sure, you -can- ask but should you? really?

Sleeveless tops = less armpit odour, because the bacteria that cause the worst odour thrive in poorly-ventilated body environments.

yes but in general asking someone to make changes to their wardrobe just to make you comfortable isn't a great idea?

Yeah, when I saw that Hariette's response was not included here I decided that I would take that as a fortunate omission. I knew she would say nothing good.

I thought I *did* include it?

It wasn't great. It was also boring. Not great + boring is really ugh.