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ask amy: going firm
Dear Amy: My son and his fiance sent out save-the-date cards, invitations and then made phone calls to people who did not RSVP to their wedding invitation.
Now it is one week until the wedding, and my brother and his wife (who said they could NOT attend) have changed their minds.
Everything is complete: seating charts, food ordered and paid for, and hotels rooms are no longer available. The wedding is in a small mountain town.
My son and his fiance have everything in order and planned the whole wedding. I feel they don't need the stress of last-minute changes.
When I called my son, I could feel the tension in his voice and I told him I would handle letting my brother know it is not possible at this late date to add to the guest list.
I feel bad but my brother had three months to decide — and declined (after he was called).
Should I have paid more money to cover the cost of adding him? Should I have pressed my son to fit him in and add to his stress?
— FOG (father of the groom)
FOG: Last-minute changes are an unfortunate but inevitable part of any planned event.
Your brother announced he would like to attend, but there is also a likelihood that another guest or two wouldn’t be able to make it at the last minute. This is why many couples handle their seating at the very last minute, but hosts can’t be responsible for providing a last-minute hotel room.
The ultimate decision should rest with the couple.
Now it is one week until the wedding, and my brother and his wife (who said they could NOT attend) have changed their minds.
Everything is complete: seating charts, food ordered and paid for, and hotels rooms are no longer available. The wedding is in a small mountain town.
My son and his fiance have everything in order and planned the whole wedding. I feel they don't need the stress of last-minute changes.
When I called my son, I could feel the tension in his voice and I told him I would handle letting my brother know it is not possible at this late date to add to the guest list.
I feel bad but my brother had three months to decide — and declined (after he was called).
Should I have paid more money to cover the cost of adding him? Should I have pressed my son to fit him in and add to his stress?
— FOG (father of the groom)
FOG: Last-minute changes are an unfortunate but inevitable part of any planned event.
Your brother announced he would like to attend, but there is also a likelihood that another guest or two wouldn’t be able to make it at the last minute. This is why many couples handle their seating at the very last minute, but hosts can’t be responsible for providing a last-minute hotel room.
The ultimate decision should rest with the couple.
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I can totally believe that of him. He was and doubtless continues to be a sweetheart.