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Care and Feeding: My Parents Are Spoiling My Little Sister
Dear Care and Feeding,
I am 17, and my little sister is 7. My parents are now totally different than the parents I remember having at her age. Her allowance is much larger than mine was, they say yes to basically everything (she can have food in the living room, which was strictly forbidden), and I can’t see how she’s not going to wind up spoiled. Can I talk to my parents about this?
—Shortchanged
Dear Shortchanged,
Your parents are just old and tired and wise enough 10 years on to know what things to let slide. The allowance? Let’s call it inflation. Food in the living room? They’ve given up on that carpet, which likely is a lot less pristine after 10 years of family use.
Let it go. You’re 17. I recommend doing any one of the thousand incredibly fun things you can do that your sister cannot, and counting your blessings.
https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/09/parents-spoiling-little-sister-care-and-feeding.html
I am 17, and my little sister is 7. My parents are now totally different than the parents I remember having at her age. Her allowance is much larger than mine was, they say yes to basically everything (she can have food in the living room, which was strictly forbidden), and I can’t see how she’s not going to wind up spoiled. Can I talk to my parents about this?
—Shortchanged
Dear Shortchanged,
Your parents are just old and tired and wise enough 10 years on to know what things to let slide. The allowance? Let’s call it inflation. Food in the living room? They’ve given up on that carpet, which likely is a lot less pristine after 10 years of family use.
Let it go. You’re 17. I recommend doing any one of the thousand incredibly fun things you can do that your sister cannot, and counting your blessings.
https://slate.com/human-interest/2019/09/parents-spoiling-little-sister-care-and-feeding.html
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It wasn't common at all in my cohort, and when it did happen having much younger siblings usually included the parents leaning hard on the older kids for childcare. Often it was attached to a divorce and new stepparent, as well.
(One friend basically raised her 7- and 12- years younger siblings while her parents were dealing with their own stuff, and has been really open about resenting the heck out of her parents over it. I think the words she used were, "I've done my time, and I am never having kids again.")
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