I think it's good for Prudie to mention that there's a middle ground; they can just go out occasionally. But, yeah, if after living with her for ten years, the most she can say about their relationship is that she made "an effort to include" her and fulfilled "whatever parental duties" she had? Then it's got to be better for everyone for them to just end the relationship. Ideally by the adult leaving the city so that the child has more room to grow.
Hopefully, the daughter is better adjusted than the adult. One of my old co-workers had been in a relationship since her son was around 3, and the relationship broke up when he was about 14. They kept in touch for about a year, and that was it. The two guys liked each other well enough, but just never connected enough to keep that relationship going, which even though it was an adult/child relationship within a household, it was never one of father/son. Given all the things that came up in other discussions, I really don't think it was an issue. (I feel like there's more hard feelings in my own family over my mom's brother in-law who decided he was no longer part of our family once my aunt passed away, even though we lived in different cities. And a large part of that was because we did have a close relationship before that.)
I'm trying not to touch the whole bit about how if it's a father trying to share custody, then having the "secondary" parent get the weekends is him trying for party time. Prudie - maybe that's what he was trying to do, but a lot of people think that's the status quo: moms on the weekdays to get the kids to school and be responsible, and dads on the weekends so that they can have fun together.
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Hopefully, the daughter is better adjusted than the adult. One of my old co-workers had been in a relationship since her son was around 3, and the relationship broke up when he was about 14. They kept in touch for about a year, and that was it. The two guys liked each other well enough, but just never connected enough to keep that relationship going, which even though it was an adult/child relationship within a household, it was never one of father/son. Given all the things that came up in other discussions, I really don't think it was an issue. (I feel like there's more hard feelings in my own family over my mom's brother in-law who decided he was no longer part of our family once my aunt passed away, even though we lived in different cities. And a large part of that was because we did have a close relationship before that.)
I'm trying not to touch the whole bit about how if it's a father trying to share custody, then having the "secondary" parent get the weekends is him trying for party time. Prudie - maybe that's what he was trying to do, but a lot of people think that's the status quo: moms on the weekdays to get the kids to school and be responsible, and dads on the weekends so that they can have fun together.