My BFF has finally Dumped The MF Already, after he was psychologically abusive for years. While the ex's parents agree that his behaviour crossed all the lines, the ex's dad has claimed for years -- to both my BFF and to the ex -- that because mt BFF paid the bills and shit when the ex screwed up the money, she was, and I quote, "emasculating him." BFF is so gaslit that she still kind of agrees with this. It's one of the reasons it took her so many years to get him the hell out of the house. This is a guy who has now spent multiple nights in jail for violating her restraining orders, and the ex-father-in-law still claims she drove him to it by "emasculating him."

Which is a longwinded way of agreeing with you completely. Abby can fucking get fucked, and then she can go fucking volunteer in a domestic violence shelter. Jumping Jesus on a pogo stick.