agonyaunt | (no subject)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I volunteer at my local humane society every weekend, and over the past several months, I've developed a real connection with one of the cats there. Her name is Marbles, and she's been at the shelter for more than a year now. She's had a rough past, and she can be a bit aggressive at times, especially around strangers or loud noises, but there's a deep sadness in her eyes that breaks my heart. Despite her tough exterior, she's really opened up to me, and I can tell she trusts me.

I really want to adopt her, but my boyfriend is completely against having pets. He says they're too much responsibility and mess and that it would make our apartment feel chaotic. We've talked about it several times, and he hasn't budged. I understand where he's coming from, but I can't stop thinking about Marbles and how much she needs a stable home and someone who truly understands her. It feels like I'm abandoning her every time I leave. I'm torn between respecting my relationship and doing what I feel is right for this cat who's already been through so much. Is there a way to make this work without causing serious tension at home? -- Love That Stray

DEAR LOVE THAT STRAY: As torn as you are, it would be unfair to the cat to bring her into a home where she isn't welcome. The animal has already been traumatized by whatever happened in the past. The best you can do is love her when you are there with her and keep your eyes open for someone who may be the perfect person to take her home.

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