I...do not like Delia. There, I said it. Seriously, she's as bad as the classic Annies at the whole, "But family!" thing. Every once in a while, I think some people are too quick to advise estrangement, and then I read this...

LW, I'm going to assume that moving out is, for whatever reason, not an option. Make it a goal. A really, really important goal. Your Dad is not saying cruel things about BIPOC and trans people because you're growing up. He's saying them because it's who he is. Avoid him as much as you can, and make getting out a priority.