Does he know the whole story, what you did, and why you did it? If not, tell him.
Does he feel like he is doing better? Or does he still feel just as lost and is pushing through it now to show up and put on a brave face? Is there space for him to talk about the ways he may still be struggling? If you don't know, ask him.
Did the breach of trust harm your openness and intimacy and ability to share with each other?
You stopped working as a team with him because he'd stopped working as a team with you, but working as a team isn't just about doing the things you've said, it's about keeping on talking about your needs and your feelings and keeping on shoping up for each other. Maybe you're doing this! But if you're not, talk about it--how abandoned you felt, how desperate you were, how relieved you feel now, and also, how you want to work together going forward, how you are still available to hear and support your partner.
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Does he feel like he is doing better? Or does he still feel just as lost and is pushing through it now to show up and put on a brave face? Is there space for him to talk about the ways he may still be struggling? If you don't know, ask him.
Did the breach of trust harm your openness and intimacy and ability to share with each other?
You stopped working as a team with him because he'd stopped working as a team with you, but working as a team isn't just about doing the things you've said, it's about keeping on talking about your needs and your feelings and keeping on shoping up for each other. Maybe you're doing this! But if you're not, talk about it--how abandoned you felt, how desperate you were, how relieved you feel now, and also, how you want to work together going forward, how you are still available to hear and support your partner.